Journaling to your future spouse shouldn’t be about your spouse. It shouldn’t be about you. I’m glad I journaled to Josh not because I felt more connected to him, but because it drew me closer to God. These letters helped me navigate my singleness with complete trust in His character and love, and they are living proof that even the hardest years of our singlehood can bring glory to God if we live them well.
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College culture is a prime place for sexual strongholds to begin. Secular universities provide ample opportunity for alcoholism and partying, both of which inhibit our ability to walk by God’s Spirit (which is why alcohol is a gospel issue). The additional pressures of exhaustion and stress make use emotionally vulnerable, and many students seek out coping mechanisms for their loneliness or overwhelm. All of this, partnered with a lack of godly discipleship and accountability, is fertile ground for sexual compromise – and Satan knows it.
many churches encourage struggling couples to “just get married”, rather than deal with the spiritual root of their consistent failure. Because the idolatry of sex, affirmation, and desire was not rooted out prior to marriage, it will manifest itself again within marriage.
Most of the emails I receive ask how to meet, greet, and date godly guys. But once in a while I get a letter asking how to turn a guy down. And to be honest, this is just as important a topic as the other three! It’s flattering to be asked out, but when you...
This week on my podcast Lisa and I answer a listener question. No, it’s not a mini-episode. This topic couldn’t be contained in ten minutes! Today we’re tackling how to move from singleness to marriage. We discuss five areas that will help you learn to share your life with your man.
In this week's mini episode on Uniquely Woman, Lisa and I answer a listener question: How can you improve communication in your dating relationship? While it may seem like communicating in marriage is more difficult than during a dating season, I propose that dating...
She who grips her life – her wants, wishes, desires – will lose it. But she who loses her life – lets go of her dreams, pins them to the Cross, lets them die – she will find abundance and freedom.
So to you, dear girl: If you’re tired of the holding pattern, stop.
If you’re tired of waiting, stop.
If you’re sick of a less-than existence, stop.
Any first date comes with a side of pre-date nerves.
As you imagine every possible scenario for how the first few minutes will transpire, you might be wracking your brain for conversation topics. Does he like the same music? What if he doesn’t? Do I ask about his family? Hobbies? Life goals?
The first date is, in a sense, a litmus test for relationship viability. It’s a guy’s – and girl’s – first chance to see if this is the kind of human with whom they’d like to spend time.
Purity has a cost: It is uncomfortable, unpopular, and difficult at times. Purity is why I no longer wear leggings as pants, don’t watch many TV shows, and rarely read fiction. I don’t do these things because they are inherently evil. I made these choices as I grew in spiritual maturity. The closer I press to the heart of God, the less I think of my Christian “liberty” and the more seriously I take my Christian responsibility.
Your singleness speaks loudly for the gospel of Christ. Jesus saved you so you could be pure, whole, and confident. There was no caveat to that call – no “you’ll be confident once you’re married”, or “you’ll be fulfilled once you can have sex”. The gospel – when embraced, loved, and lived – is enough.